11 Oct Fears and Phobias – Regain your Noor ( Sparkle) Series
What is Fear?
According to John Demartini
You will experience fears (phobias) whenever you pursue what you falsely assume to be important to you, but actually isn’t.
Any time you intend to achieve some grand expectation that is based primarily upon someone else’s values and the life they live and not your own true highest values, you are psychologically designed to experience fear (panic, phobia) as a result of aiming for such a unrealistic fantasy (manic, philia). This phobic feeling represents a helpful feedback guide to your conscious mind to let you know you are being inauthentic with your expectations and let you know to return to setting more authentic and meaningful objectives that are truly aligned with your own highest values and that to set more realistic time frames and clear cut strategies to follow.
Your philias create your phobias.
Your fantasies create your fears.
Your “manics” create your panics.
It is unrealistic to expect yourself to achieve greatness while attempting to live outside of your own highest values.
According to Psychology Today
Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. But often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death, and thus hang back for no good reason. Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response within us that is hard to quell. Yet exposing ourselves to our personal demons is the best way to move past them.
According to Inna Segal
People fear the future based on their past experiences.
Fearful people are capable of betrayal, lies, prejudice, treachery, blame, rejection, harm and violence.
Fear locks a person into negativity creating shock, anxiety, stress and worry.
It can also inhibit change and progress, as many people feel comfortable with what they know and fear of change makes them stuck where they are, afraid to move forward.
Fear controls, paralyzes and imprisons.
It prevents people from taking action, trusting themselves and achieving their goals.
It sabotages people’s efforts by constantly creating setbacks, so that they feel powerless.
Fear also creates a sense of separation and vulnerability, and concern that someone else has power over us.
Fear impairs judgement, clouds thinking, and limits our ability to love, and experience peace and joy.
Fear contributes to many health conditions, including ulcers, urinary tract infections, tumours, cancers, insomnia, sinusitis, sciatica, back pain, Parkinson’s disease, obsessive compulsive disorders, impotence, hepatitis, haemorrhoids, diabetes, cysts and anorexia.
What is a Phobia?
A Phobia is an extreme or irrational fear or aversion to something
Aerophobia ( fear of flying)
Often occurs when you or a family member has a negative experience or accident during a flight. Also occurs from hearing or seeing visual images of plane crashes or accidents.
Acrophobia ( fear of heights, danger, death)
Feeling weak, breakable, unbalanced, panicky. Difficulty letting go and trusting. A great need to control and have everything work. Too much thinking and visualizing worst-case scenarios. Fear of dying.
Agoraphobia ( fear of crowds and public places)
Fear of losing control. Feeling unsupported. Difficulty trusting and asking others for help. Fear that people will take advantage of you and hurt you. Feeling like a victim, imprisoned in your body, mind and circumstances. Internal suffering and struggle. Feeling of pent-up rage, frozen grief, helplessness, and hopelessness. Feeling that life has dealt you a cruel blow. Wanting to hide.
Arachnophobia ( fear of spiders)
Feeling helpless, like a victim. Lack of internal power or resilience. Often connected to a childhood trauma involving spiders.
Claustraphobia ( fear of small spaces and noth being able to breathe)
Feeling anxious, obsessive, worried, stuck, imprisoned in your own reality. Needing to control everything and everyone, and feeling out of control. Trying to make everything perfect but failing. Carrying a lot of suppressed anger and disappointment.
Necrophobia ( fear of death and dead things)
Thinking, If I avoid dead things, maybe I can escape death. Fearing and pushing away the thought that death represents nothingness. Possibly the result of seeing someone dying or fatally ill, or having heard traumatic stories about death.
Social Phobia ( deep fear of being judged and criticized)
A need for approval and love. Feeling left out, rejected, abandoned and isolated. Fear of other people’s anger and reactions toward you.
Fear is due to an Imbalanced Perspective.
Gratitude and love is due to a balanced perspective.
Balanced wisdom and love conquers fears and lets us fly to our dream destinations with relaxed states of mind. – John Demartini
There are ultimately two fears
- The fear of living or dying
- The Fear of non acceptance or failure
In Life we have 2 choices daily to choose Love or Fear.
Love is everything our Creator is.
Fear is everything which represents the darkness aka Shaytaan ( Devil / Evil)
When you choose to live life by trusting our Creator we choose love and have no reason to fear.
When you feel fear arising in your body just repeat
La Hawla Wala Qowata illa Billah
Information has been extracted from Powershop 2, sources: Dr John Demartini, Louis Hay, Inna Segal
For more in depth information attend the Mobile Therapies Self Enrichment Powershop Series
Powershop 1 Detoxing from Drama
Powershop 2 Fear, Stress, Anxiety and Depression
Powershop 3 Assertiveness how to deal with different personality types